It seems to be a common occurrence among young women today, particularly our young, Black Queens, to seek validation based on external premises. We see it everyday, everywhere; young women being objectified for popularity, for Instagram likes, for confirmation and conformation. To some, life is all about how pretty people think you are, how tamed your long, expensive, foreign imported hair is. How fresh & clean the manicure, how expensive the designer bag that will be toted on the arms of dozens of other young women, who share that same broken interpretation of self worth. This is what these young women deem beautiful and worthy because this is what society and social media project.
To the media and masses, image is everything. But self worth is obscurely disregarded. It is sad. I hear young women say, all the time, “I’m ugly” in reference to themselves in a natural state: no additions of any sort; no makeup, no fake lashes, no hair weave, no brand names. How sad! How ridiculously disheartening it is to know women don’t know themselves; that they are unacquainted with and disgraced by who they are in the natural, yet cleave to the synthetic image.
Young sis, hear me out: that image that you use to define beauty was created to distract you from your self. It is a drug that has been implanted in the minds of the young and gullible, to deter you from discovering the value you possess on your own merit and beauty. Embrace yourself, honey. You were born the baddest! A one of one, okay? OWN IT. You don’t need all the extra. You just need to learn to love the you that you see, when your eyes are closed. Take some time alone, discontinue the distractions, and look inside to find out who you are and what you are meant to give to this world. The add tax and cash in! But first, learn to know yourself.